It is so crazy how this picture get so many slut shaming comments from women calling themselves feminists on Women’s Rights news forum.. But here was some good answers to all the ignorant
"That’s part of the point, Nikki. If someone chooses, with no coercion or force, to be in adult entertainment, that is their choice. Who are we to say that someone should not find that to be sexy. Similarly, who are we to tell a woman that wearing clothes entirely out of the men’s department shouldn’t make her feel sexy?
Choice. Always choice. That’s the point of feminism. When we use feminism to decided that there are only certain things that a woman should enjoy, we are as bad as any others who oppress the choices of individual women.
Ex. 1: You shouldn’t enjoy working out of the home. It oppresses women’s right to be a mother.
Ex. 2: You shouldn’t enjoy being a stay at home mother. It oppresses women’s right to work, and have a life outside of their home.
Ex. 3: You should not seek sexual gratification outside of marriage. It cheapens a woman’s worth.
Ex. 4: You should not seek marriage. It cheapens a woman’s worth as an individual.
Ex. 5: You should not enjoy viewing or taking part in pornography. It oppresses women.
If you can not see the similarities between those, you may need to reexamine your understanding of the concept of choice. Women should have the choice to find fulfillment in any way they desire, so long as it does no harm to another. Be that with chastity or pornography, being a housewife or a businesswoman or both, making the decision for all women about what should be considered acceptable, or oppressive, is still oppression. We are individuals. We will not always view the same things as oppression. As long as we do not force our standards upon others, we’re on the right track. We mustn’t fall into the trap of doing the same thing that the system we often fight does, just in the opposite direction.”
“There is nothing wrong with sexuality between consenting adults, no matter how it’s expressed. I’m sorry that you guys have such a hatred and stigma about sexuality that it would actually cause you to treat someone that way or think of someone that way just because they have more sex than you, or under different circumstances than you do. You do the dirty, too. Quite frankly, I can’t think of any form of sexual arrangement that is actually better or worse than another, and that includes marriage. It’s still the same thing…a negotiated sexual contract. And considering how many men and women have married for money, I do mean that it is sometimes literally the same thing. As for the lady’s comment and question, whether a woman’s sexuality can be dictated to her - no, it cannot, unless being dictated to happens to be her sexuality. One of the terrible problems with the adult entertainment industry right now is that it misrepresents the sexualities of its performers…each actor or actress usually just represents the sexuality of the producer in question or people who order videos made. They rarely get to represent their own sexualities. Then the audience starts to take it as the ultimate representation of sexuality and they often try to incorporate it into their own sex lives or force it into other people’s sex lives, often with disastrous or awkward results at best. If this woman, through all the turmoil of the adult entertainment industry and all the personal disrespect and harassment that she must have had to put up with somehow found a way to her own pure, genuine, flourishing, blossoming sexuality, and learned how to tell men or anyone else off about it when they tried to argue with her, then more power to her. Bravo. She’s beautiful, she’s her, she is another complete human being just like myself. Namaste to her and all others like her.”
“There is nothing classy in attaching “slut” or any other useless, outdated label to a woman based on your own decisions or adopted prefabricated framework of societal standards. Nothing. All this does is distinguish you from people who’re long divorced from old and patriarchal notions of what does and does not constitute femininity. If you like that template, fine, but do not expect the rest of humanity or females in particular to be in accord.
No one person can dictate sexiness for the whole. That is far, far too subject to the whims and tides of fashion (a loathsome creation that must reinvent itself every three months or collapse into its own hollow core), accepted norms, personal preferences. Sexiness is a spectrum, not a set of constrictive how-to-dos.
As an aside, I’d most certainly take into consideration the advice of a porn star in how to help oneself feel sexy, considering how comfortable many are in their own skin (and little else.)”
Well put people! Thanks!